Does the thought of being alone fill you with dread or are you maintaining your distance just because it’s safer to do so?
Well I felt exactly the same
I'd always had a level of independence that had served me well even through the hard times but it was only when my fear of being alone overrode my once buoyant self-esteem to a degree that led me to over care for others because of my fear of abandonment. Until this time I'd felt okay in my own company but my feelings of isolation were so impacting that they made me make bad choices and decisions. I'm also ashamed to say that my conduct in a rebound relationship that had consumed me was so out of character that I found it hard to move away until that is I started using movies as a way to recognize my behavior and this in turn led me to detach from unions that didn’t serve me well but this is only half the story as the heart is a muscle that you have to flex.
Why I used movies
I'm different now largely due to the fact that I identified that I acted in a way that related to my type when crisis loomed because I was trying to protect what little self-esteem I had left but I badly needed to change as the impact my personality traits were having on my life were detrimental. The problem was I had a distinct lack of immediate role models so I turned to movie characters to help me recognize how I attached to others and I then began to act in a way that allowed me to show what I was willing to accept in terms of their behavior towards me and visa versa.
Can I help you?
If you're struggling to assert yourself because it's easier than challenging others behavior or if you’re tired of being in control all the time then I understand just how you feel right now but rest assured your situation IS redeemable. I instinctively know when I speak to people the impact their type is having on them but it’s all about them experiencing it for themselves and that’s were movies come in because they offer a safe space to explore how people attach so you can understand what’s happening in your life and how to work towards an intentional result so you get the life you want from tweaking how you essentially respond to others.
What others say
"I would recommend Lynn as a supportive and skilled life coach with an empathetic approach which has enabled me to develop the capacity to find solutions to issues" NM - London
"Creative way of thinking about my life and where I'm heading" JH - Liverpool
"It inspired me and I came away feeling confident, optimistic and determined to achieve more things in my life" SH - Wirral
How to get involved?
The best place to start is to sign up for the online course Get Typed, the link to the our online school is in the free resources page this will help you determine your type though movie characters with the result of you having a clear idea of how you currently attach and whether to embrace traits or watch out for them, if you prefer a more in depth session click on the movie therapy session heading below to book and access more details.
Lynn is a qualified movie therapist, mentor and life coach who struggled to establish her niche in a crowded coaching market, she'd used movies to self-soothe through many years of coping with loved ones with ADHD and depression but it was only when her life took an unexpected turn she discovered that using this creative tool allowed her to see herself differently through the experience of emulating characters behaviors which she now encourages her clients to do to not only negotiate the modern world of dating but other areas of life.
Her expertise is self-development and she's worked with a diverse range of people by helping them use movies as a tool towards increasing self-esteem through behavioral change to overcome relationship conflict and work/life balance issues with the support of The School of Social Entrepreneurs from where she graduated as a fellow on the Social Innovators for Health program.